Having been a part of many weddings, I’ve put together a list to help your day go a little smoother. I hope this helps!
1. Take ‘perfect’ off the table
Your wedding day may not be perfect. It’s not going to ruin your day if the napkins aren’t exactly right or if it rains, because little things may well go wrong. You’ve probably paid experienced vendors – let them take the worry off your shoulders and enjoy your day. The things that don’t go to plan often become the best stories in years to come. One of my brides loves to tell people about her cardboard wedding cake which was green (in a blue-themed wedding). It is all part of life’s rich tapestry (quote borrowed from my Dad).
2. Just be yourselves
Don’t have the wedding you think you’re supposed to have, have the wedding you and your fiancé want. There is no rulebook that says you must have a DJ/wear white/get married in a church. On the other hand, if your wedding vision has always been the whole shebang, enjoy the heck out of it!
If you don’t want to hear feedback on what you think is a kickarse idea, then don’t say a word to anyone.
3. Take five minutes together
Your wedding day will go FAST. A combination of the ceremony, reception, cocktail hour and well wishers means you will not get to carve out much time for just the two of you. In fact, usually the only time of day you can take a moment and revel in the glow of being a newlywed couple is during your couple portraits with your photographer. Not exactly a romantic setting! I fully encourage you to run off together for five minutes, and just hold each other and revel in the newlywed glow.
4. Make a list of things to bring back
In the whirlwind of the day certain table decorations, handmade ornaments, gifts and keepsakes can accidentally get left behind. Make a list of things you must have back from the venue, and give a copy to your wedding venue/co-ordinator as well as your trusted family member or friend. That way, if anything gets lost in the shuffle they will know to hang onto it for you.
5. Bring your dancing shoes
It’s so much easier to have a good time when you aren’t thinking about how uncomfortable your shoes are. Even if your wedding shoes are the most beautiful in the world, chances are you haven’t had time to break them in.
Pack your comfiest shoes for dancing, like these handy little fold-up ones from Cinderollies. They’d also make a cute wedding favour for the ladies!
6. Discuss Social Media before the wedding
Discuss sharing photos on social media BEFORE the wedding, and let your friends and family know whether or not it’s OK with you if they share, or if you would prefer that they don’t. In this day and age, with everyone posting to Instagram and Facebook, discuss ahead of time so there are no hard feelings after the fact.
7. On that note – think about an ‘unplugged’ ceremony
One of the joys of the wedding ceremony is looking out at all your loved ones who are there to share your special day. Unfortunately, it has become so common to see a sea of cell phones instead of smiling faces.
An unplugged wedding ceremony benefits your guests as well. Being ‘in the moment’ will be more important to them in the future than a photo added to an Instagram story. After the ceremony, of course, there will be unlimited opportunities for guests to take as many photos as they want.
8. Stay hydrated
Make sure you always have a drink in your hand. Ask one of your bridesmaids or friends to be on water bottle duty, or see if your catering team can bring an extra glass or two of water to your dinner table. Plenty of water will make for a happy bride. Plenty of champagne = an even happier one!
9. Invite who YOU want
Intimate weddings and elopements have become very popular, and for good reason. Escaping to the mountains with your closest people or hugging a host of great-aunts you see every 5 years? The choice should be yours and yours alone.
10. Thank your vendors
If you really love your vendors one of the greatest gifts you can give them is to find a public site that rates said vendor and write something that could sway couples to call that company. WeddingWire, The Knot, Google and Facebook are all fantastic places to leave testimonies.
And lastly, have fun!